I’ve been going through this post-marriage pre-midlife crisis in life, especially workwise. I’m realizing that I put my career goals on hold back in 2010 when I sold my sad little donut shop for pennies, and since then I was just hanging on by threads, waiting. Waiting to be inspired to do what I really want. All the while working in an office, which was only supposed to be temporary, but temporary has turned into 4 years….. what??? I did that already! How did I get back there again? 4 years of doing something that i am just simply NOT meant to be doing is a long time, especially for an enlightened sassy sauce girl. Well guess what?
I’m done. I’m over it. Enough, finit-o! no mas!
Don’t settle when you know there is something else you really want. Like you’re working this job you hate and much rather be doing something else. What is that something else? It is okay if you don’t know right now, but start asking yourself. And don’t settle.
Yes, I’m talking about settling. Don’t settle.
We all settle, even when we think we don’t. Sometimes you have to compromise, that’s okay. But don’t settle.
I don’t have good examples, but off the top of my head here is where I will compromise:
Getting coffee – I ask for the dark roast. I’m in a rush. They give me the medium. I take it, I’m in a hurry, all is fine. No lives were harmed.
I also compromised on our neighborhood; I moved into my husband’s house because it made sense at the time, even though it wasn’t my favorite part of town. It was fine, we survived and being with him was worth the change in zip code. Well, temporarily… thank goodness we moved. I digress!
Settling: working in a job that I know is not for me and selling my soul by the hour, and feeling like I have to put on a mask every day; sitting at a desk wondering what am I doing this for gets old.
Another example is being in a relationship that you know is going to no-where-vill but he has a key and your cat likes him, and he knows your favorite drink, and you have that movie you both love that nobody else has heard of. And you wear his shirts and love them… but still, you know he’s not the one. Settling.
Settling is actually okay sometimes though. What? I mean really, sometimes you have to just wait and be patient. This is okay, patience is good but don’t give up on a dream or goal and SETTLE. Patience? Yes have patience. Your dreams may not come true within 24 hours. That doesn’t mean they won’t happen eventually… start planting those seeds and let them grow. Maybe add some fertilizer and extra sunshine. Say some positive affirmations, they always help. Don’t give up. Don’t settle, have faith!
So what’s my goal? Well in summary, I am in the process of leaving a job that I don’t want so I can actually do what I DO want. Sounds so simple… so not that simple, but still. I’m not settling, I’m not going to just give in and allow my days to morph and use all my energy to get through my work that I have no interest in. It’s not fair to the company I work for, after all there are people who might actually want and like my job. I am not one of them, so please feel free to take it. seriously email me if you want my job…
I have always had an entrepreneurial heart; my first loves in life were: art, cooking, and business. When I was 5, I painted all these wooden magnets and sold them to our neighbors. I used the money to buy an ice cream maker. I thought I was freakin’ awesome… but yeah, so I love business and making stuff. I like stuff. Making people happy. And stuff.
Anyway. I have been interested in writing for a long time but never thought I had anything interesting to say. Well now I don’t care if anyone thinks I’m interesting, thankfully I think a lot of people are so maybe it makes up for any lack.
I also love working, but working on things I love. What do I love? Well a lot of things.. anyhow, it’s TIME to take action. I’m at the point where I’m ready and my seeds are starting to sprout just a wee bit. I’m putting out the positive vibes and feeling the love. I’m declaring what I want to the universe!
And the universe listened.
Things are falling into place every day; I’m moving closer to being where I want to be, not where I think I should be. That’s a cool feeling.
Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t born with balls of steel. I wasn’t a super sauce ninja overnight. There have been a lot times in my life where I settled. I settled for my disordered eating and disordered ways because I thought they were the only way I could cope with life. I settled for boring exercise because I was afraid to try anything new or fun. I settled for miserable diets because I thought that’s the price of beauty (which is clearly total wank!) I settled for friendships that were miserable and exhausting because I thought that it was ok if it was one-sided, to be a pillow or punching bag allthetime… not really. It should go both ways, you listen, I listen, we all listen. FRIENDS.
You are allowed to want the things you want, and you’re even allowed to go after them. You don’t have to be stuck. That doesn’t mean you need to climb the mountain today, but just know that you have CHOICES. And plant those seeds now, and let them grow. Yell to the universe what you REALLY want out of life. You can actually have it. life can be FABULOUS…
Life is a lot shorter than you realize and moments really are sacred and precious.
If what you’re doing isn’t making you feel joyful, maybe it’s time to consider things that do.
I don’t know, I’m not a professional.
BUT I am a real person that has been able to overcome a lot of bizarre and incredible obstacles and KNOW that if you want something, you can have it. Well, within reason… ok joking. Sort of. Don’t test this and go asking the universe to send you to the moon if you’ve never gone to college. Just saying. But you can ask for this if you went to astronaut school, yes that’s allowed
*If you love fancy deluxe toilet paper, then buy the premium toilet paper and stop settling for cheap stuff. It is your toosh after all and should be handled in a premium way. Your toosh is worth the few pennies more. Okay I am speaking for myself, life totally improved for me when I allowed myself to wipe with the good stuff. Oh yeahhhh… happy toosh, happy girl.
What do you want to change? What’s not working for you anymore?
I want to change my work situation and I’m on it… 😀
Have you ever felt like you’ve settled?
Today I settled on leftovers for breakfast because I just couldn’t be bothered to make anything, but at least it was food and not just a bowl of sauce.
Do you ever send back food that’s sub-par, or do you keep it and not consider it a big deal?
I have on the rare occasion kept something that wasn’t what I wanted, but typically I don’t. In fact I’m happy to compensate people greatly for bringing me what I actually want. I pay you for the pesto, you bring me the pesto, not the hummus. Capiche?
So I’m standing up right now! well not literally. But I’m letting people know that you don’t have to put up with mediocrity and living a life that doesn’t excite you. Be excited! I want to live a life that makes me go “FU*K YEAH!” in the morning, doesn’t that sound awesome? Well I’m a morning person so it does to me. F yeah.